The quality of the therapeutic relationship between therapist and client is very important, as our ability to trust and feel safe to express ourselves is fundamental to the process.
Before we can commit ourselves, we need to know more about each other. I explain more in How we work together, but for now it’s helpful for you to find out about my background, experience and ethos for supporting singles and couples with their relationships.
In 2004 I trained at the W.P.F. (Westminster Pastoral Foundation) in London, obtaining a Certificate in Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy.
During this training, I realised that many of our challenges in life come from how we relate to others and how they relate to us. I took time to think about my own personal relationship experiences and internal processes. I discovered how we internalise our relationship experiences, both positive and negative and use these experiences to make sense of ourselves and others, in our unique way and in the context of its environment.
I subsequently joined an excellent couples training programme at the T.C.C.R. (Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships) in central London. The organisation now renamed “Tavistock Relationships”, has offered high quality, world renowned psychotherapeutic training and research since 1948. After graduating, I worked as a qualified psychodynamic psychotherapist at the T.C.C.R. for 4 years, gaining experience and continual professional development through my clinical work.
My 5 year training process was life changing, challenging and enjoyable and in 2010 I graduated with a Post Graduate Diploma in Marital and Couple Therapy. The emphasis of the training was using the psychodynamic model/theory. There are different models, theories and trainings used by organisations to train counsellors and psychotherapists. As therapists we tend to choose the route which suits us as individuals.
The allurement of a psychodynamic training to explore the human mind and behaviour and its unconscious processes was triggered when I asked myself these questions…
Why are we attracted to a particular person?
Why can’t we find our intimate partner who fulfils us?
I have learnt that we often find ourselves in relationships for many other reasons besides the more obvious, conscious ones.
Through my learning process, I have discovered the connections between our early years of development, attachment patterns to our primary care giver, childhood experiences and environment. Our socialisation norms, family system, parental role models, sibling dynamics and other factors which have contributed to shaping how we relate.
Since moving away from London in 2014, I have been working in private practice in the counties of Wiltshire and West Berkshire – Marlborough, Swindon and Newbury.
Supporting singles and couples from all walks of life, ethnicities, social and cultural backgrounds, sexual orientations and identities. I offer a safe, neutral and confidential environment in which to share and explore thoughts and feelings.
Helping and encouraging insight and understanding, enabling decision making and change process.
I’m a Registered and Accredited member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (Membership No. 576308).
I work within the BACP’S Ethical Framework for the Counselling Professions and I am fully insured. Insurance is covered by Howdens.